Love
A desire for love
leads us to form relationships!!!
A relationship
should not rely solely on sexual intimacy. Rather,
it should gear toward emotional intimacy.
Any relationships
must have commitment to be successful. You must be
friends with the other individual in order to
totally respect them as a person. This puts you both
on the same level, and tends to make couples more
compatible. This is because you understand one
another. You most likely have the same interests,
same thoughts, similar accomplishments. You are
alike and that's good.
Proximity is a
critical factor in beginning a relationship.
Clearly, we will never fall in love with someone we
do not know. Physical attraction is also a major
determinant in choosing a mate. The matching
hypothesis suggests that we pick people who are like
us or at about our same level of attractiveness. We
also look for someone who will validate us. This
occurs when our significant other supports our views
or interests.
There are three
components, which form seven types of love. They are
intimacy,
passion
and
commitment.
|
Intimacy |
Liking someone
(sharing, self-disclosure) |
|
Passion |
Infatuation |
|
Commitment |
Together for a reason ("we're here for the
kids") |
|
Intimacy & Passion |
Romantic love (falling in love) |
|
Passion & Commitment |
Fatuous (no intimacy) |
|
Commitment & Intimacy |
Companionate love (best friend) |
|
Intimacy, Passion, &
Commitment |
Consummate love (all of it!) |
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