Communication between adolescents and parents may seem impossible at times. However, it is essential to keep the lines of communication flowing. Parents can do this by taking an active interest in their teens - their friends and the activities they are involved in. Parents also need to respect the privacy of their adolescents by not prying, opening mail, eavesdropping on phone conversations etc. It is important for parents to express their own values and attitudes on important areas such as alcohol, money, religion. Teenagers need parents with firm convictions, not ones who harp on them continuously.

 

Parents also need to listen to their adolescents. They have to pay attention to not only what their teens say, but to what is really meant. They also have to respect the opinions of their children and Listen to them without being judgmental. Also, parents must try to see the point of view of their adolescents even if they don't agree with them and validate their feelings. Healthy relationships between parents and adolescents depend upon:

* Rules and Expectations: Parents should clearly state rules on issues like hours to come home, homework, chores and family and other responsibilities. Parents must make clear what they approve and disapprove of.

* Realizing Independence and Individuality: Parents must recognize their adolescent's need for establishing a sense of independence. Involving them in decision-making is vital.

* Flexibility: Adolescents see things from a fresh slant. Parents may need to rethink about some of their own thinking patterns.

* Avoid Criticism: Since adolescents are not sure about themselves, criticism may be felt as a devastating attack.

* Support: Parents must express trust and confidence in the judgments and decisions of their adolescents.

* Love and Affection: They may not show it, but teens still need parental affection and approval.

Parents need to be sensitive to the pain, pleasures and problems of growing up in a tough, complex world. They need to appreciate the delightful person that their teenager is- self-reliant, strong, smart and wise!