All of the above is about learning how to move ourselves from a "selfish" love to "real" love. It is also about radiating a positive and loving energy. Why is this so important? As mentioned above, science is proving that feelings are contagious. This means that if you think and act lovingly, your partner will actually "catch" that loving energy. You become a model that evokes love in your mate. And the whole nature of the relationship begins to move in the direction of love. Radiating a positive and loving energy can make all the difference in the world.

The best news of all is that when you commit to moving beyond "selfish" love and into "real" love, something truly amazing can happen. You may actually wake up one day and realize that you're sitting across the dinner table from that being you didn't really believe existed: your Soul Mate. If you want to 'find' your Soul Mate, you have to become someone who lives in your soul, what I love to call the Higher Self. We can all make the decision to live our lives with dignity, love, and caring, and to push through the inner fears that keep us from being loving people. We all have that choice.    >> end

• Love is hard
• Expand the purpose of your relationship
• Handle the neediness
• Pick up the mirror instead of the magnifying glass
• Become the mate you want your mate to be
• Validate your mate
• Commit to one romantic act a day
• There are times to "lie" lovingly
• Stop gender bashing
• Summary