Why is
love so hard?
Divorce. Heartache. Gut-wrenching arguments.
Marriages filled with hurt feelings and
repressed resentments. Sound all too
familiar?
You're not alone. Many of us find ourselves
bewildered and dismayed by how difficult and
painful "love" can be. We yearn for
relationships that are better, more
rewarding, and just plain easier. In our
hearts we know that love isn't supposed to
be this way. So what are we doing wrong? And
more to the point, what can we do to make
our love relationships more, well... loving?
Here's what you can do to make love easier,
more fulfilling, and more joyous -- even if
you have to do it all by yourself.
So many of us unknowingly base our
relationships on selfish love, which is a
product of the ego and creates a need to
control one's partner and to 'get' instead
of 'give, people don't do this maliciously,
but rather from a sense of fear. The good
news is that when you realize this
truth--that your anger, blame, and judgment
are really fear in disguise -- you can turn
your relationship around. You can start
practicing real love. And it's okay if your
partner doesn't want to work on it with you
-- you can do it all by yourself.
Changing your relationship from "selfish"
love to "real" love takes only one person.
That means you can no longer use your mate's
refusal to work with you as a "cop out" for
doing nothing.
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